When we enter into a relationship with someone, there are basic relationship rights that all partners are entitled. When partners enter a relationship where they are secure and confident in themselves, bring themselves to the relationship as a whole and separate person, and believe in the mutuality and co-creation of the relationship, partners exhibit personal power. A person that has personal power realizes that they have the right to….
Basic Rights in a Relationship by Patricia Evans
The right to emotional support
The right to be heard by the other and to be responded to with courtesy
The right to goodwill from each other
The right to have your own view, even if your mate has a different view
The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real
The right to receive a sincere apology for any jokes you find offensive
The right to clear and informative answers to questions that concern what is legitimately your business
The right to live free from accusation and blame
The right to live free form criticism and judgment
The right to have your work and your interests spoken of with respect
The right to encouragement
The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
The right to be respectfully asked rather than ordered
The right to be called by no name that devalues you.
You need to feel safe and respected in your relationship. If there is goodwill and respect in the relationship, other issues can be addressed. However, if after reading this list, it feels like you are not getting your basic rights honored in your relationship, I highly suggest reading Patricia Evans book - The Verbally Abusive Relationship for more information on the process that might be going on. You’re not crazy. You’re not too sensitive. You’re not alone.
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The Verbally Abusive Relationship By Patricia Evans - https://www.powells.com/book/-9781558505827